Dating Again After A Bad Break Up.

Advice from our Jewish Matchmaker for new Jewish singles after a breakup

by Marianne Giselle Franks (Shadchan)
The Jewish Singles Events & Matchmaking Company

Written on 11/Jan/2012 Contact the author on 07545635028

 

As a Shadchan (Jewish Matchmaker) I know jewish dating can be quite difficult at the best of times, though if you have been unlucky enough to have encountered a bad break up it can become more daunting, even scary.

The New person may say something that reminds you of the previous person. Your mind if you allow it begins to whirl and work over time. Before you know it, you are judging the new person against the previous one....STOP! DO NOT GO THERE!

In a good relationship it is fine to have an argument or disagreement in fact sometimes a row can bring you closer together. As after the dust settles, it is good to “kiss and make up".  This will be a good time to have a chat and discuss what is on both of your minds.  An important factor in a good relationship, something which actually bonds a couple.

Who knows you both may even be in love with each other, yet never actually until that moment have realised and vocalized it.

I suggest always look for the positive in a new relationship; try to forget the bad old one. In fact think of the bad relationship as a disgusting pair or dirty old socks....Uch now you would not want those in your possession! Would you?

It is important that you judge your new partner with fresh eyes, and on their own merits.  So what if at times they use the same expression, this means nothing. So what if it reminds you of that bad rotten apple from the past, who thank goodness is now out of your life. These emotions in time will fade and eventually disappear forever.  This is merely a little bit of insecurity. There is no need for it, it is time to forget the past and appreciate the great new partner whom stands before you.

Many things can trigger emotive memories, a song, a movie, the scent of perfume, even food.  It is good to acknowledge these past feelings that are brought about, then put them aside and move on.

Your relationship in time will bloom into something special if you allow it too, and not bring in negativity.  Just remember do not scold yourself if you do. We are all human which makes us so incredible!

As a top Shadchan for Jewish Singles and Jewish Dating, here are my tips for a good relationship.

1. Be honest and open.

2. Tell your partner how you feel about them.

3. Make time for each other.

 

Tips For Jewish Men.

1. Be romantic anything your imagination can create, goes a long way. The right Jewish woman will really appreciate it. Romance does not have to be expensive just make it your own.

2. Be yourself and the right woman will fall in love with you, never attempt to be anyone whom you are not, know you are more than enough.  This is advice for the ladies too!

 

Tips For Jewish Women.

1. If he is feeling unwell.  Look after him.  Remember most Jewish men with a cold are dying of man flu. Take him over some lovely soup preferably chicken, (Jewish Penicillin) made by you, if you cannot cook, buy some.  However don't go over the top and smother him.

2.  When he does something romantic, thank him for he has given you a gift.